Becky takes us through her journey to becoming a life and mindset coach for ambitious moms, and lets us in on the sneak thoughts that keep us stuck in life and business. We also cover her top suggestions for how to get “unstuck” and find freedom from the things that are currently holding us back. You can find Becky HERE!
Sneaky Thoughts Keeping You Stuck In Life and Business with Becky Hoschek
Becky Hoschek is a life and mindset coach for ambitious moms building businesses and careers while raising kids.
Through private 1:1 coaching and her podcast, Beyond Happy, Becky helps women get unstuck and find freedom from the thoughts and beliefs that are holding them back.
Certified through The Life Coach School, Becky applies psychology, brain science and mindset to the big things in life, the little, everyday things and everything in between. By focusing on thought work and mindset and getting to the root of problems, she helps clients feel better for good.
Prior to launching her coaching practice, she served clients for 15 years as a copywriter, designer and marketing consultant for major brands such as Better Homes and Gardens and Caterpillar, Inc. and small creative businesses. She also owned a family photography business for a decade. Becky is a wife and mom of 3 and lives in Illinois.
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BULLET POINTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- What does hustle like a mother mean to you?
- What it means to me is learning how to work smarter and more efficiently with the time that we want to dedicate to the work that we care about. It really looks like creating a business that serves your life rather than the other way around.
- What was your journey to becoming a life mindset coach for ambitious moms?
- My background was in being a creative entrepreneur for a number of years. I studied both business and graphic design in college, I got a business degree in marketing and I got an art degree in graphic design. I loved the creative, but I also loved the strategic side of things. So marketing was my happy place where I got to do both of those things. A few years out of school and I really wanted to be my own boss. So I started freelancing both as a designer and kind of a marketing consultant. I was doing copywriting, design work, and a bunch of things.
- When our daughter was born, she was a preemie and needed to be kept at home and isolated away from people for her first few months. It was the perfect time to use her as my subject to photograph and learn all things photography. Other people started asking me to photograph their kids and their families when I would share my images on social media. Then it became a mix of continuing to do my marketing and design work for other clients, but also doing photography. The Interesting thing that happened along that journey was that I started to notice a pattern here. I was doing work on the marketing side for a lot of small businesses, owned by moms. And on the photography side, moms were often the ones hiring me to photograph their babies and their families. And as I started developing these relationships with these women on both sides, the pattern I started to see emerging was kind of this confession to me that my life looks so amazing on the outside.
- I was listening to this podcast and it wasn’t even a life coaching podcast. It was a marketing podcast and they were interviewing a coach and just everything that she said made so much sense to me and really resonated on a level that within a week’s time I had enrolled myself in life coach school certification.
- What are the sneaky thoughts that keep us stuck in life and business and how can we work through them?
- The majority of struggles that we experience in our days are rooted in a thought problem. Our thoughts are always creating what we’re feeling. What you’re feeling is always driving- how you’re showing up, how you’re behaving, what you’re saying, what you’re doing, what you’re not saying, what you’re not doing. Those actions are creating the kind of results we were seeing in both our days and our lives.
- The first one is the thought, I don’t know. “I don’t know” may feel true, but it also feels really safe to your brain because it means that you don’t have to do anything new. When you feel like you don’t know, you’re probably not going to take action. All of a sudden you’re paralyzed because of that feeling of being overwhelmed and confused. Getting unstuck can be as simple as “I don’t need to know all the things, I just need to know the next right thing.” That one small decision can propel us forward in the direction that we want to be going. We aren’t going to know the whole plan until we figure it out along the way.
- The second one is the thought, “this isn’t working now.” When we think “this isn’t working”, it transfers the responsibility to something or someone else outside of our control. If we don’t feel responsible then we don’t have any ownership, which takes our ability away to actually make it better. You end up in this really awful vicious cycle of nothing is working and I don’t know how to fix it and then we give up. The more clarity we can bring, the more our problem-solving brain can go to work for us.
- The third one is the thought, “I don’t have enough time”. The fact isn’t that there’s not enough time because there’s always enough time for the things you prioritize. The issue is there’s not always enough energy and we need to reprioritize to put this energy in different places. You get to choose how you spend your time. There is always enough time for the things I need time for.
- The fourth one is the thought “I’m just ____”. Using the word, “just” minimizes and downplays whatever it is you’re talking about. They set low levels of what we aspire to do in our thoughts. Try just saying the same thought, but taking out the word, “just” because you aren’t just a mom, you aren’t just an entrepreneur, or another person launching a side business. You are a smart person with ambitious goals and that matters. It’s not something to be minimized.
- The fifth one is the thought, “I can’t say no”. We have a hard time saying no for a number of reasons, in terms of business we genuinely fear missing out on potential opportunities or missing out on clients. When we say “yes” out of fear or out of obligation, we end up feeling resentful because we use the time and energy on things that aren’t in alignment with our real priorities. When we do that, we end up not serving ourselves, our families, or our clients well because of the resentment that it creates. We need to get more and more comfortable with our yeses and our nos and make sure that they are aligned with the kind of life that we want to be creating.
- The majority of struggles that we experience in our days are rooted in a thought problem. Our thoughts are always creating what we’re feeling. What you’re feeling is always driving- how you’re showing up, how you’re behaving, what you’re saying, what you’re doing, what you’re not saying, what you’re not doing. Those actions are creating the kind of results we were seeing in both our days and our lives.
